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Ungrateful? Don't want to raise a real father.

Let's first say that since we were born, our real father didn't want to raise us because we were premature and unhealthy, so he gave it to his adoptive mother.

Once in a while, I come to visit. But after my real mother died, my father never came again. No tuition, daily expenses. My adoptive mother and grandmother always paid for it. But my father used to tell my adoptive mother that when I graduated from university, I would go to him and raise him myself. So I thought that if I had to repay for merit, I didn't give my adoptive mother better? I was sick. Mri Hospital. Tens of thousands. My father never came to visit, never came or helped pay anything. Are we black-hearted? Like this, if we would not raise our real father, divide the money to work. Free, now cut off from talking anymore

Everyone thinks we are ungrateful, but we want to give back to our benefactors. Even without children, we are as dedicated as brothers and sisters.

# Family Story # Relationship narrative

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... Read moreเรื่องราวความสัมพันธ์ระหว่างพ่อแม่ลูกนั้นแสนจะซับซ้อนและหลากหลาย บางครั้งคำว่า 'ครอบครัว' อาจไม่ได้หมายความถึงสายเลือดเพียงอย่างเดียว แต่คือความผูกพัน ความรัก และความรับผิดชอบที่สร้างขึ้นจริงในชีวิตประจำวัน จากประสบการณ์ส่วนตัว ฉันเข้าใจดีว่าการถูกทอดทิ้งจากพ่อแม่แท้อย่างไรบ้าง ตอนเด็กฉันก็เคยรู้สึกว่าทำไมพ่อแท้ๆ ถึงไม่สนใจ ไม่ดูแล แต่ในขณะเดียวกันก็เผชิญกับความรักและการดูแลเอาใจใส่จากแม่บุญธรรมและคุณยาย ที่คอยส่งเสริมและช่วยเหลือมาตลอด ในฐานะเด็กที่เติบโตมาไม่ได้รับความรักจากพ่อแท้ๆ ฉันพบว่าการ “ตอบแทน” หรือแสดงความกตัญญูกับผู้ที่ดูแลจริงๆ นั้นมีความหมายมากกว่าการยึดติดกับเลือดเนื้อเพียงอย่างเดียว หลายคนคงเคยตั้งคำถามเหมือนกันว่า ถ้าเราไม่อยากเลี้ยงดูพ่อแท้ๆ ที่ไม่เคยรับผิดชอบ แบบนี้ถือว่าอกตัญญูหรือเปล่า? สำหรับฉัน มันไม่ใช่การไม่กตัญญู แต่มันคือการเลือกที่จะตอบแทนและให้ความสำคัญกับคนที่รักและดูแลเราจริงๆ ไม่ใช่เรื่องผิดที่จะตั้งขอบเขตในความสัมพันธ์ บางครั้งการตัดสัมพันธ์กับคนที่ทำร้ายจิตใจ หรือไม่แสดงความรับผิดชอบ อาจเป็นการรักษาสิทธิ์และความสงบสุขในชีวิตของเราเอง และยิ่งในกรณีที่ต้องเผชิญกับค่าใช้จ่ายรักษาพยาบาลจำนวนมาก หากต้องเป็นฝ่ายแบกรับภาระเพียงลำพังโดยไม่มีการสนับสนุนใดๆ จากพ่อแท้ๆ ยิ่งทำให้รู้สึกว่าไม่น่าเหมาะสมที่จะต้องเสียใจหรือรู้สึกผิด ท้ายที่สุด การแสดงความกตัญญูเป็นเรื่องสำคัญ แต่การเลือกที่จะตอบแทนความรักและความทุ่มเทจากผู้ที่จริงใจดีกว่าเป็นสิ่งที่ควรค่าแก่การให้เกียรติและยกย่อง การเข้าใจและยอมรับความจริงของชีวิตจะช่วยให้เราก้าวผ่านเรื่องราวความสัมพันธ์ที่เจ็บปวดไปได้ด้วยความเข้มแข็งและปัญญา

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