A way of thinking that helps pass the bad days.

1.Change from "Why us?" to "What is this story teaching?"

Such as

* Rejected → Practice coping disappointment

* Missed work → Seeing points to develop

* People grieve → know their own boundaries and values.

Some events do not come to win, but to grow.

2. Separate "what is controllable" and "what is uncontrollable."

Out of control.

* Other people's thoughts

* Former

* Events that have already happened

Controlled.

* Response

* How to think

* Actions hereafter

Mind power often returns when we focus on tangible things.

3. Look at the problem as "chapter one," not "whole life."

Sometimes we take difficult moments to define ourselves, such as

"Work is broken = We're not good at it."

"Love is broken = we're not good enough."

Actually, it's probably just an incident, not a whole identity.

4. Ask yourself, "How big will this be in a year?"

There are a lot of things that are very heavy today, but when they pass, it turns out to be just a lesson.

This question helped pull us out of the mood at the time.

5. Keep "what remains," not only "what is lost."

When people encounter problems, the brain often zooms only on what is broken.

Try asking back that

What's still there today?

* Health?

* Family?

* Work?

* Chances?

* Experience?

Not to comfort yourself, but to see the picture.

6. Look at life as an investor

From what you like about investing, compare it like this.

Life is like an investment portfolio.

* Profit range available

* Has a negative range

* Sometimes have to hold long

* And some losses don't mean the entire system port is broken.

The important thing is to "manage risk and survive."

7. Allow yourself not to be okay.

Positive thinking doesn't have to say

"It's okay."

Sometimes the most real sentence is

"It sucks... but we'll slowly pass out."

This is also strength.

# Technically, stop thinking a lot and do it immediately # Thoughts