am I being too sensitive?

My boyfriend is traveling with his son to see the child’s mom his ex in another state. I’m completely fine with that part. I support his son having a relationship with his mother, and I knew this visit was coming.

What caught me off guard is that his ex invited him to stay at her place for two nights, and he plans to do it. He says they’ll be in separate rooms and that it’s “just easier.” Meanwhile… I’m pretty sure she doesn’t even know I exist, which honestly feels like its own red flag.

I told him I trust him, but if I’m being honest, I’m uncomfortable. I feel guilty even admitting that, but it’s the truth. Staying in your ex’s house for multiple nights l even when it’s for the child feels like a lot. Part of me thinks he could’ve at least tried to find another place to stay instead of expecting me to just be fine with it.

I don’t want to be controlling. I don’t want to project my insecurities. But it’s hard not to feel weird about the situation.

Would this bother anyone else, or am I being too sensitive?

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2025/12/13 Edited to

... Read moreIt's completely natural to have mixed feelings when your boyfriend plans to stay at his ex's house overnight, even if it's for their child. Co-parenting situations are often complex and can bring up insecurities and concerns, especially if communication about these arrangements feels lacking. Staying at an ex's place for two nights can feel like crossing personal boundaries, particularly if you feel excluded or unknown to that person, which can trigger red flags mentally. Many partners expect transparency and reassurance during such trips to feel secure. It's important for your boyfriend to acknowledge and address your feelings without dismissing them as insecurity or control. Setting boundaries together about co-parenting visits, like exploring alternative accommodations or having more check-ins, can help ease discomfort. Remember, trusting your partner doesn’t mean ignoring your feelings. Open, honest conversations about expectations and emotions build a stronger foundation. Feeling uneasy doesn't make you 'too sensitive'; it shows you care about your relationship's emotional health. Seeking support or advice from friends or trusted sources who understand co-parenting dynamics can also provide perspective and comfort. Ultimately, your feelings are valid, and working through them thoughtfully can enhance both your self-understanding and your relationship trust.

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years ago my bf told me he was gonna go out on a couple dates with his ex to pay her back for some of the shit she did to him before they split up I'm not stupid like he thought I was. I said no if you do that we are done.he said fine we will break up tonight and get back together next weekend.i didn't say no more about it when he took me home I said we are done there won't be no gettin back together ever . he said nevermind I won't do it then just forget it. I said no just the fact that you were planning on doing it was enough for me.

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