Things I wish I knew before…

Having a baby! It changes you a lot and these are things in my experience I wish I knew would happen.

1.you have to advocate for you and baby. You assume your family and friends would always have baby and yours best interest at heart. That’s not always the truth. I’m a people pleaser and I have really had to fight myself to say something many times against practices that go against my beliefs from doctors, family, friends, and strangers.

2.your relationship with your partner will change. It’s inevitable with being thrown into a whole new experience. We struggled so much in the beginning and even somewhat now. I was hateful and resentful and he was trying so hard to help. He only got 1 week off to help me and it was rough. It made me so thankful that I had him though because not everyone has help.

3.self care seems selfish. This was one of the strangest parts. I had this helpless little baby that needed me 24/7 but I am also a human. I disconnected from myself so bad. When we got home I showered and then… (so real here pls don’t judge ) I rotted in bed w/baby for 2 weeks until my mom drug me out of bed. I felt the need to ask to shower, or brush my teeth. I still somewhat do. I’m just now feeling like myself again 6 months later.

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... Read moreHaving a baby brings immense joy but also significant challenges. Many new parents find themselves surprised by the shift in their priorities and dynamics at home. One key aspect is the need to advocate for your own well-being and that of your baby, as not everyone in your circle may fully understand or support your choices. Understanding that your relationship with your partner might change is also crucial. Communication becomes vital as you navigate the new roles and responsibilities. Often, feelings of resentment can arise, so mutual support is essential. Moreover, self-care is not just a luxury; it is necessary for maintaining your mental health. New parents frequently struggle with guilt over taking time for themselves, but it's important to remember that caring for yourself enables you to care for your child better. Finding small moments to recharge, whether it's through a shower or a short walk, can make a significant difference in your overall well-being. Implementing routines that allow for self-care can contribute positively to family dynamics as well. Embracing these changes with a proactive mindset can lead to a smoother transition into parenthood.

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