6/5 Edited to

... Read moreFrom my experience, deciding to go no contact with a parent is never easy, especially within tight-knit Asian American families where respect and filial piety are deeply valued. In my case, the choice was driven by a need to address persistent issues within our household that traditional conversations hadn’t resolved. It felt like an act of setting boundaries to protect my own mental health and promote healthier family dynamics. Within many Asian American communities, discussions around mental health, conflict, and especially anti-Blackness can be delicate. The referenced keywords such as "grwm-steps to confront the anti-Blackness in Asian American communities" highlight the broader social issues that intersect with family experiences. Confronting these challenges requires courage and often involves seeking support outside immediate family circles, such as community groups, podcasts, or foundations focused on racial justice. I found that establishing no contact created space to reflect and recalibrate my relationship with family values and cultural expectations. It also allowed me to advocate for necessary change without immediate emotional backlash. It’s important to note that this approach isn’t about cutting off love but about creating healthier boundaries. For anyone considering a similar path, I recommend seeking peer support or counseling to navigate the emotional complexity. Recognizing systemic issues like internalized anti-Blackness within some Asian American contexts can also be enlightening and foster broader understanding. Ultimately, change often starts with individual courage, learned strategies, and the hope that family relationships can evolve toward respect and healing.

Related posts

3 Reasons I Went No Contact With The Narcissist
#ToxicMother #narcissist #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticmother #childhoodtrauma
🧜🏿‍♀️ El’Deity Princey 11 ♒️

🧜🏿‍♀️ El’Deity Princey 11 ♒️

7 likes

A close-up selfie of a blonde woman wearing pink and black framed glasses and a leopard print top. Overlay text reads "I went no contact with my mom & I don't regret it," with the Lemon8 logo and username "@thescentedmermaid".
I went no contact with my mom
My mom and I have always had a rocky relationship. My parents divorced when I was 11 and my mom started a new family. My dad had primary custody until I chose to move in with my mom in my late teenage years. As soon as I was 18, I was thrown out of my mother’s home. We repaired our relationship
Scentedmermaid

Scentedmermaid

12 likes

I went No-contact with you 🐕 for a reason.
And I ain’t breaking that now! 🙅🏾 🤐 #youmakemedotoomuchlabor #narcfamily #survivor💪🏾 #blacklemon8creator #foryoupage
Ziya .B 🍉🇵🇸

Ziya .B 🍉🇵🇸

3 likes

A smiling person in a black shirt looks at the camera while another person kisses their cheek. A large red 'X' is superimposed over the person kissing the cheek. Text reads "how i maintained no contact 5 months" and "Lemon8 @trendyy.kenn".
how i maintained no contact for 5 months
i stopped talking to my ex back in september.. she was abusive emotionally and physically and it was just a toxic situation to be in.. when i finally left in september i made sure i would never talk to her again 1.block them on everything 2.stay away from activities that remind you of them 3.
Isabelita

Isabelita

292 likes

A person in a car looks at their phone, which displays a photo of another person. The overlay text reads, 'WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GO NO-CONTACT SWIPE,' introducing the topic of breakup healing.
A person lies in bed, looking at their phone, with an orange cat nestled beside them. The text states, 'YOU START TO MISS THEM LESS AND LIFE STARTS TO MAKE SENSE AGAIN,' illustrating emotional recovery.
Two people sit at a table, both engrossed in their phones. The overlay text says, 'YOU START TO FIND YOUR INDEPENDENCE AND REGAIN YOUR CONFIDENCE,' highlighting self-discovery after a breakup.
what happens when you go no-contact
no-contact is an essential part of breakup healing. many other coaches on social media have created a conversation about how no-contact is a tool to get your ex back, but I strongly decline that. no-contact is meant to have you detach from your ex and de-centre them from your life. when you stay in
evelyn

evelyn

578 likes

A collage showing a woman's 'before' and 'after' glow-up. The 'before' images show her looking tired, overstimulated, undernourished, and underloved, while the 'after' images show her with a more vibrant appearance, including a nose piercing and styled hair.
A close-up of a woman's face, smiling slightly, with text overlay warning against taking photos off TikTok and explaining how camera beauty features can blur natural facial lines and wrinkles.
A woman with short hair and a nose piercing looks over her shoulder. Text lists her insecurities (nose hump, jawline, hair loss, over-coloring hair) and an 'insecurity hack' to pose on your 'bad side' to improve photogenic skills.
Feeling UGLY? No problem !!‼️😜 GLOW UP WITH ME🔥
Things I did to personally improve my appearance: • I got extensions and use them to frame the front of my face where I lost hair. • I got my nose pierced; since it takes up majority of my face😝 • I took months off make up to focus on skin care (highly paid off) • I changed my diet, and take
Catty Rivera 🫧🎐🌸

Catty Rivera 🫧🎐🌸

141 likes

A green drink and a wallet on a wooden table, with a potted plant in the background. Overlay text asks about thoughts on "NO CONTACT" and lists rules like no in-person meet-ups, calls, texts, or social media engagement.
A smiling woman in a white top and brown pants stands outdoors in a sunny, tropical setting. Overlay text lists possible benefits of "no contact," including processing grief, accepting reality, preventing confusing feelings, and focusing on oneself.
A bed with white bedding and a textured white blanket. Overlay text provides tips on how to resist contacting an ex, such as keeping a journal, spending time with friends, developing a workout routine, and practicing meditation.
breaks and break ups: going “no contact”
I’ve been seeing more and more content on socials about people having a “no contact” boundary with their previous partner. regardless of why a relationship ended, it’s going to be hard - physically, emotionally, spiritually. the security and comfort that relationships bring, make it really chal
allison wetig

allison wetig

108 likes

A young woman with long dark hair, wearing a green and yellow shirt, sits at an outdoor cafe table, holding a green drink with a straw. Overlay text asks, 'Should you go no contact? after a break up', discussing understanding unmet needs.
Two people's hands hold a coffee cup and a green drink with a straw over a crosswalk. Overlay text states, 'sets a boundary' when going no contact, especially if the relationship was toxic.
A street view of a brick building with fire escapes and a storefront named 'SOHO GARDEN' with flowers outside. Overlay text explains that no contact 'helps you process emotions' by taking time apart to understand feelings.
benefits going no contact after breakup
this is the most important one ⬇️ it helps you understand your needs that were not being met in the relationship!! when you take a step back and go no contact you can analyze what needs were and were not being met. Then you can figure out how you can meet these needs whether through family, f
rachel

rachel

96 likes

No contact is so hard😭😭😭
Skincare video posted on my instagram (brias_diary) & TikTok! (In bio) #love #imissyou #summer #skincare #skincareroutine #relatable #girl #pink #breakup #relationship
Bria Evans

Bria Evans

2223 likes

A person takes a mirror selfie with a cat, displaying the text "if you go no-contact today..." on the image, with the Lemon8 logo and username at the bottom.
An outdoor scene at dusk with bare trees and buildings, featuring the text "IN 2 MONTHS... you won't feel so lost without them" and the Lemon8 logo.
A landscape view of buildings and a field under a sky with a faint rainbow, overlaid with the text "IN 6 MONTHS... you won't believe you ever thought you couldn't live without them" and the Lemon8 logo.
reasons to go no contact
no-contact is really important to actually detach from your ex and move on. relationships evoke the same neural chemicals as addiction, so there is literally a period of withdrawal that’s necessary. I know it’s scary to detach and it feels like you’re losing them. but going no contact to move on wi
evelyn

evelyn

152 likes

The real reason he went quiet.
His pride is the only thing standing in the way right now, but the universe is not letting him sleep. 🛑 If you've been feeling this crazy energetic cord between you two, this is your ultimate confirmation. Don't let his ego ruin this timeline! #tarotreading #exback #nocontact #manifes
moon rain

moon rain

2 likes

Rust-Oleum counter paint vs. contact paper?
😩 PSA to everyone about to redo their countertops... SAVE YOUR MONEY AND YOUR SANITY. I fell for the hype and tried the Rust-Oleum countertop paint. Y’all… it looked decent for about 3 days. By day 7 it was already scratched to hell from normal use — plates, knives, even just setting a mug down to
Bethany | Revival Momma

Bethany | Revival Momma

125 likes

A person's reflection in a mirror, holding a phone, with the text overlay "3 REASONS TO GO NO-CONTACT SWIPE" and a swipe arrow. The Lemon8 logo and username are at the bottom left.
A close-up of snow with a small paw print, featuring the text overlay "1. YOU'LL BE ABLE TO SEE THAT YOU CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT THEM IN YOUR LIFE". The Lemon8 logo and username are at the bottom left.
A desk with books, a laptop, and a lamp, next to a window showing autumn trees. The text overlay reads "2. YOUR BRAIN WILL BE ABLE TO TAKE THEM OFF THE PEDESTAL". The Lemon8 logo and username are at the bottom left.
3 reasons to go no-contact
no-contact is a scary step to take, I get it. but basically in short, the more you’re in contact, the more you’re reinforcing your attachment to them. no-contact is similar to withdrawing substances, so you need to think of it like it’s going to get worse before it gets better. your brain just need
evelyn

evelyn

250 likes

5 months no contact
it’s been 5 months since i cut all ties with my ex 🥳 this was probably the best decision i’ve ever made though it was hard in the beginning i’ve made it this far with no contact🥹since september here are all the things i’ve accomplished 1. got a job 2. got closer with my friends 3. made new c
Isabelita

Isabelita

987 likes

A collage of instant photos on a dark surface, with the main photo showing a smiling woman outdoors. Text overlay reads "Finally committed to no contact..." with "—help!" and cartoon exclamation marks, indicating a plea for support after a breakup.
Finally committed to no contact…
I did it suddenly and fast because I honestly had to. I love him still, so I worry over the fact that he might not be handling it well. We were broken up and trying to be friends for a a handful of days, but one of us would say something that “just friends” probably wouldn’t say to each other a
Katherinekachow

Katherinekachow

14 likes

5D New-Earth Contact
#embracevulnerability #astronomy #ufo #shareyourthoughts #astrology @Lemon8 Wellness
💫 Interdimensional Being 💫

💫 Interdimensional Being 💫

1 like

Guess who went to dollar tree again?..
Me. I have a problem 💀😔Anygays I found so many things I’ve been searching for and finally got them Green Bay #dollar three #the dollar store sell them. #dollartreefinds #dollartreebeautyfinds #dollartreeshopping Purchased from: dollar tree ⭐️Overall rating: 11/10
Janelle🫶🏾🍃

Janelle🫶🏾🍃

261 likes

Aaaand I went for..
Blonde! 👱‍♀️ and I love it! #lemon8diarychallenge #Hair #blonde
Angi

Angi

1063 likes

A fluffy white dog stands on its hind legs, playfully reaching towards a display of colorful tulips in a store. A price tag shows 'Tulips $5.99'. Overlaid text reads 'What I did In a day' and 'Adulthood', with 'Lemon8 @wxxh71' in the corner.
For those who went no contact with a parent
We don’t even live in the same city, but she calls once a week (I have reduced it down to this) and I find the conversations incredibly draining. She doesn’t inquire at all about my well-being and basically just goes on and on (for about as long as I’ll allow) regarding her life, her hobbies, he
MSJoey

MSJoey

56 likes

WITH THE DIRECT EYE 👁️ CONTACT 👁️
👀 #theynotlikeus #surgery #operatingroom #funny #humor #healthcare
ladyspinedoc

ladyspinedoc

20 likes

The power of the non/Contact Rules
Breaking up was really hard for me, especially when it came out of nowhere. I felt empty and wondered if I’d ever get over it or if getting back together was even possible. I decided to try the no-contact rule, and it made a huge difference. It gave me the space to heal and helped me focus on mysel
Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

Milaidy🫧🌺🍕

130 likes

5D New-Earth Contact
#spirituality #ufo #reiki #energy #energyhealing @Lemon8 Wellness @Lemon8 Edu @Lemon8 US
💫 Interdimensional Being 💫

💫 Interdimensional Being 💫

4 likes

WHY HE WENT DISTANT. ❄️
His current distance isn’t a sign of fading love—it’s a battlefield inside his own head. 🕯️ The universe brought this message to you because his pride is secretly starting to crack. He’s re-reading your old chats, wanting to text, but paralyzed by the fear of how you'll react. Leaving a '❤️
moon rain

moon rain

0 likes

Day 4 NO CONTACT
Today has been a little tough for some reason. I have had thoughts of regret & guilt. I cried in my car after I took myself out to eat. Why do I have waves of missing someone who didn’t fulfill my needs? Why is it so hard to let go? I’m sure he hasn’t cried since he’s blocked me. I am trying my
NelleDoesIt

NelleDoesIt

13 likes

Just don’t contact me, thanks
BryGuyFerreira

BryGuyFerreira

817 likes

A collage featuring hands holding boxes of Lil Moon and Olens contact lenses, alongside two close-up eye shots with colored contacts. The image is titled 'Korean Contact Lenses Haul'.
A hand holds an Olens Caribe 3Con Brown contact lens box. Below, a close-up eye shot displays the brown lens, with specifications like 1 month wear, 14.2mm total diameter, 13.0mm graphic diameter, and 8.6mm base curve.
A hand holds an Olens French Shine Gray contact lens box. Below, a close-up eye shot displays the gray lens, with specifications like 1 month wear, 14.2mm total diameter, 13.2mm graphic diameter, and 8.6mm base curve.
Korean colored contact lenses haul 👀
I have been wearing colored contacts lenses since 6th grade haha 🫣so I have learned what color and brand best fits my eyes! I wanted to share with you some of the best contact lenses that I have used <3 I typically purchases my colored lenses through Olens and Lil Moon!🤍 Olens: 1. Caribe 3Co
Jingting Lyu

Jingting Lyu

51 likes

A person wearing headphones and a crop top takes a mirror selfie in a restroom. Text overlay reads "WHY NO-CONTACT WORKS" with an arrow, and "lemon8 @evxlynsteph" is at the bottom.
A close-up view of snow with a single paw print. Text overlay states "1. YOU'LL BE ABLE TO SEE THAT YOU CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT THEM IN YOUR LIFE." The Lemon8 logo and username are at the bottom.
A desk with a laptop, books, and a lamp, next to a window showing autumn trees. Text overlay reads "2. YOUR BRAIN WILL BE ABLE TO TAKE THEM OFF THE PEDESTAL." The Lemon8 logo and username are at the bottom.
3 reasons to go no contact
no-contact is a scary step to take, I get it. but basically in short, the more you're in contact, the more you're reinforcing your attachment to them. no-contact is similar to withdrawing substances, so you need to think of it like it's going to get worse before it gets better. your bra
evelyn

evelyn

51 likes

5D New-Earth Contact
#spirituality #ufo #reiki #energy #energyhealing @Lemon8 Wellness @Lemon8 Edu @Lemon8 US
💫 Interdimensional Being 💫

💫 Interdimensional Being 💫

1 like

See more