I used to feel this way… and it was because- truthfully, I had no idea who I was, or what I truly wanted in a real partner. Once I figured out who I need to become, what I want… I stopped dating and will not date…. Unless I’m dating in the pond I learned I need to fish in… if he doesn’t fit my partner wants, it’s a hard pass. No exceptions. Once you’re clear on who this person is, you begin to break old cycles and patterns. Wisdom over insecurity fueled void fillers

✨stop random dating

✨get focused on who you need to become to BOTH attract and be the right partner..

✨learn how to continue growing into the woman you say you want to become in the meantime

✨surround yourself with UnBiased and ⚓️Secure women that are on the same personal growth and wisdom path.

Find a path…. Walk it out sis.

“Change your perspective, change your life”-Jen Crowe

2025/11/2 Edited to

... Read moreMany people experience frustration with dating because they don’t have clarity about their own identity or the qualities they seek in a partner. Saying "I should get a check for my taste in men" humorously reflects that struggle, but the real solution lies in self-awareness and intentional dating. The first step is understanding that successful dating begins with knowing who you want to be—not just who you want to date. Developing your own values, goals, and emotional stability creates a strong foundation for attracting a partner with matching intentions. This approach moves you away from random dating or choosing partners based on insecurity or filling voids. It's important to "fish in the right pond," meaning engage in social environments and communities that align with your values. This increases the chance of meeting individuals who fit your partner criteria. Surrounding yourself with unbiased and secure women on similar personal growth journeys provides encouragement and accountability, which is vital when breaking old patterns. Personal growth is ongoing, so focusing on becoming the woman you aspire to be helps you maintain high standards and avoid settling. This continuous self-development can involve mindfulness practices, setting boundaries, and prioritizing emotional health. Changing your perspective—as noted in the original content—is transformational. By shifting from insecurity-driven dating to a wisdom-led approach, you gain control over your romantic life and open yourself to authentic connections. In summary, overcoming difficulties with “taste in men” involves clear intention, self-improvement, and community support. Embrace this path gradually, and you’ll find dating becomes a rewarding experience rather than a frustrating cycle.

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