Do you think it’s a fair reason?

ever since becoming a mom, I’ve lost a lot of friends. Honestly I don’t blame them, because I always choose my kids over them. I think that’s something that for me I’m not able to balance. Another reason is that we don’t really have anything in common anymore if they don’t have kids. I don’t go out, I go to bed early, I’m just boring now 😅 However the true friends who love me and understand of the importance of being a mom for me are still here through it all. Those close close friends, that you can pick right back up where you left off with after the longest time, are the forever friends. They don’t judge you, hold grudges, or guilt you, just constant love and support. Those couple friends are worth so much more!

Have you lost friends because of something? Do you think it was “fair”?

#lemon8challenge #girlpov #friendship #bestfriends #GirlTalk

2025/8/31 Edited to

... Read moreLosing friends after becoming a mom is a common experience many mothers share. As life shifts prioritize children, social habits and interests naturally change, often leading to less time and energy for previous friendships. This change can create a gap, especially when friends don’t have children and no longer share similar lifestyles. Many moms find themselves going to bed earlier, avoiding late nights, and steering clear from their old social scenes, which can be misunderstood or experienced by friends as drifting apart. However, there is often a deeper meaning behind these changes – it's about valuing quality over quantity. The friends who remain are often those who truly understand and support your new life role without judgment, grudges, or guilt. These “forever friends” offer constant love and support, making lasting friendships more meaningful. It's also important to acknowledge that friendships can evolve; some connections may fade naturally when priorities no longer align, which is not necessarily unfair but rather a reflection of life's different seasons. Honest conversations about expectations and time commitments can sometimes help in maintaining these relationships. This experience resonates with many mothers who navigate balancing parenting and social life. Embracing the changes and cherishing true friends who accept your motherhood journey can lead to fulfilling, authentic social connections. Sharing your story and hearing others’ perspectives can be comforting and empowering in understanding that losing friends due to life changes is a shared reality, not an isolated situation.

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same and I noticed that the responsibilities change , and the conversation can never touch basis and im learning that’s it’s okay and that just means it’s time to elevate and find my people who I can relate to with the actual day to day life battles I have . It’s detrimental to be around people who no longer serve you a purpose.

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