Things I Learned In My Twenties

1-if you don’t address your wounds and your triggers, you will unconsciously punish those around you for pain they did not cause. I have been on both sides of this coin. I have sabotaged great friendships because I wasn’t doing the work to heal, and I have had to end friendships with great people because their unhealed actions were causing me too much pain. Both sides are awful.

2- if you are not emotionally safe to tell your friend when you are not ok with something they have said or done- that is not 👏 your👏 friend👏!!!! Relationships are built on uncomfortable conversations, if you cannot have these conversations then you are walking on eggshells. Wish them well, and walk away.

3- the more you become YOU- the more it will draw in who is meant for you- and repel who is not!! What a gift! The more yourself you are the less you have to wonder who is really on your team!

4-People talk sh*t. They’re going to gossip if you do too little, they’ll gossip if you do too much- so do what you want! Just know- no one who is truly happy has unkind things to say about someone else. If someone is speaking negatively about your life it’s because they are unhappy with theirs. So have compassion for them, but go give em something to talk about 😎

Love,

Your Witchy Friend 💕

#embracevulnerability #Lemon8Diary #advice #witchytips #womenempowerment #twenties #thirtiesclub

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... Read moreIn your twenties, self-reflection becomes increasingly critical as you navigate friendships and relationships. Healing emotional wounds is essential; unaddressed pain can impact those around you, leading to unnecessary conflicts. Establishing emotional safety is vital in friendships; if you can't communicate candidly about discomforts, those relationships lack true essence. It's important to understand that friendships should foster growth, and discomfort isn't a sign of failure, but a necessary part of connection. Embrace your authentic self, as this attracts the right people into your life while naturally repelling negativity. Moreover, it’s crucial to understand the role of gossip in social dynamics. Whether you succeed or fail in life, there will always be spectators. Focus on your passion and purpose, knowing that the happiness of others is not defined by your choices. When you stop worrying about others’ opinions, you’ll find the freedom to truly express who you are and, in turn, flourish in your endeavors. Lastly, acknowledging that not everyone can grow alongside you is part of the journey. Cleanse your circle of those who drain your energy and cultivate those who uplift and inspire you. By doing so, you’ll create a network supportive of collective growth.

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