Can we talk about bad coffee chats for a sec?

I love taking coffee chats, don’t get me wrong! I’m always open to sharing any tips and tricks I have learned along the way, but my biggest pet peeve is if they dont tell me what they want to get out of the converstion and the first question is something super broad like “tell me about your career journey” 😭 where do u even start? It’s been 10 years!! Do u want me to tell you about the pivots? Switching roles or industries? What I would recommend if you’re just starting out? How I got promoted? Help me help you! I want to avoid giving a vague monologue 🫠

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2025/11/15 Edited to

... Read moreCoffee chats can be a valuable tool for career growth and networking, but their effectiveness depends heavily on how they're approached. One common issue people face during these meetings is receiving very broad or vague questions like "Tell me about your career journey." When someone has a long, varied career, this can make it difficult to know where to begin, leading to unfocused conversations that aren't particularly helpful. To make the most out of coffee chats, it’s crucial for both parties to be clear about their objectives beforehand. If you're the person requesting a coffee chat, prepare specific questions or topics that you want to cover. For example, instead of a broad inquiry, you could ask about key career pivots, industry transitions, or recommendations for someone just starting out. This clarity helps the other person provide targeted, meaningful advice rather than a generic overview. Additionally, understanding unique coffee cultures can enhance your networking experience. For instance, the image highlights "PHINBAR," which appears to focus on traditional Vietnamese coffee styles like Phin-Brewed Black Coffee and Thai Tea. Sharing cultural or local coffee preferences can also serve as an icebreaker or common interest topic to make the conversation more engaging. In summary, whether you're a seasoned professional with a decade of experience or just beginning your career, setting clear intentions for coffee chats ensures productive and rewarding discussions. Avoid overwhelming your connection with very broad questions, and instead focus on specific, actionable topics. Remember, a good coffee chat is a two-way street where both parties benefit from well-structured and thoughtful dialogue.

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