My long distance boyfriend loves me.
Sometimes I understand why my mom worries about me falling in love with a man who lives in the other side of the world
And I believe her when she worries I might end up in the den of the wolves.
But there are times when my boyfriend reminds me that our love is far beyond just being physical there for each other. That communication is key to all relationships. And although I grew up in a family full of anger, walking on eggshells, and difficulty expressing their feelings with communication.. he’s teaching me what healthy love and expression is.
He’s patient, hard to anger, quiet, soft spoken and soft hearted.
Something I was taught was wrong to be. Something that I couldn’t be. Or so I thought…
I thank God every day for meeting someone as understanding and as patient as this man. Who doesn’t rush or push me to do things I’m not comfortable with. That only cares for my well being.
He’s teaching me that being vulnerable with the one you love is okay. That being as soft hearted as I am is okay. And to put my walls down for the people that truly want the best for me.
Navigating a long distance relationship (LDR) definitely comes with its unique set of challenges, and I completely understand why some people, like my mom, might worry about it. There's the physical distance, the time zones, and sometimes, the sheer longing to just be physically present with your partner. But through it all, my boyfriend has truly shown me that love isn't just about proximity; it's about a deep, healthy connection built on trust and communication. One of the biggest concerns for LDR couples is often how to maintain intimacy and that feeling of closeness, especially when you can't share a 'long distance relationship kiss' in person. For us, it’s about finding creative ways to bridge that gap. We rely heavily on supportive communication throughout our day. It’s not just big, deep conversations, though those are vital too. It’s the little things: a quick text saying 'I'm thinking of you,' or seeing a screenshot of messages like 'always rely on me if you need ok' and 'I'll always be by your side.' These simple affirmations make a huge difference in making me feel loved and secure, even thousands of miles away. We also make sure to send each other 'message for long distance boyfriend' moments, not just through texts but through thoughtful gestures. He's sent me lovely gifts like a pink teddy bear and a gold compact mirror engraved with 'With Jehovah, All Things Are Possible,' which truly touched my heart. These aren't just presents; they're tangible reminders of his love and presence, especially when he includes sweet, personal notes like 'From Mirco.' It shows he’s always there, thinking of me, even when we can't be together physically. Beyond communication and gifts, we focus on building shared experiences, even virtually. We’ve had 'virtual dates' where we watch the same movie or cook the same recipe at the same time. It’s about creating those common threads that weave our lives together, making the distance feel less daunting. We also make it a point to express any longing and reassurance, like when he messages 'I miss you so much' followed by 'I'll always be close to you' and 'I'll always be here for you.' This constant reaffirmation helps us both feel secure. What I've learned most is that healthy love in a long distance relationship, or any relationship for that matter, is about patience, understanding, and a willingness to be vulnerable. My boyfriend has taught me that putting my walls down and being my soft-hearted self is not a weakness, but a strength, especially with someone who genuinely wants the best for me. It’s a journey, but with his constant support and our commitment to intentional connection, our love continues to grow stronger, proving that distance truly makes the heart grow fonder when it's built on a solid foundation.
