Why do others like to destroy our confidence?

Feelings of impaired confidence are very painful and uncomfortable, and often "jealousy" is a real cause, but deep down, the behavior of people who like to press others often has a more complicated origin.

This is the main reason why some people choose to destroy the confidence of their peers:

1. Insecurity

Many people do not intend to be bad, but @# Confident, not afraid # More confident # Trending # Lemon 8 HowtooThere is a "knot" or fear in his heart. When he sees others looking good, happy, or confident, he will automatically feel "inferior." Making others look worse is a defense mechanism to make them feel superior or equal.

2. Envy (Envy)

Envy works in a way that says, "I want to have that, but I don't." When he can't handle this feeling, he chooses to destroy the value of that (or that person) so that his own needs seem less meaningful, so that he doesn't have to feel defeated.

3. Power & Control

Confidence is a "power." People who like to destroy other people's confidence often want to control a relationship or situation, because if they can make you doubt yourself, you are more likely to listen to him or rely on his decisions.

4. Past environment and experience

Some grow up in a family or society that primarily uses "blame to commit" (excessive) or pressure, so he absorbs that this is a normal means of communication, or the only way to encourage others to develop, unaware that it is damaging encouragement.

How to cope to heal yourself

Screening for Speech: Separate "useful criticism" from "negative speech." If the speech has no development guidance, only cynicism, interpret it as "noise."

Looking back at the speaker: When someone tries to lose confidence, think, "Is he going through a problem in his heart?" Seeing the weakness of the speaker will make the speech less effective for us.

Keep a Safe Space: Try to Stay Close to Someone Who Really Supports and Values You to Replenish Positive Energy

That others try to destroy your confidence does not mean that you are not good or worthless, but that it reflects the "problems in his heart" rather than your identity.