My bf wants to break up cause I gained 100 lbs
I’ve been with my bf for 3 years. When we met, I was a college athlete, super active, fit, barely 110 lbs. After graduation, I got a sedentary job and started putting on a few pounds. At first, it didn’t faze him, he even thought I was beautiful when I was 50 lbs heavier. But then my dad suddenly passed away and I turned to food to cope. Before I knew it, I’d gained 100 lbs total.
Back in the day, he loved carrying me. I loved it too. But the other night, I asked him to carry me to bed, just for old times’ sake. He froze then said he couldn’t. I pushed him to say why and he sighed: “Honey, you’re too heavy. I’m only 175 lbs, you’re more than I can lift.” I cried I knew I was bigger but I hoped he’d try. He slept on the couch. Now he’s saying he’s not sure about us anymore. What do I do?
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Weight gain, especially a significant amount like 100 lbs, can deeply impact both personal health and intimate relationships. It's not just a physical transformation but an emotional journey that requires understanding and compassion from both partners. In relationships, weight gain can sometimes lead to shifts in attraction, confidence, and how couples relate physically and emotionally. When your boyfriend said, “Honey, you’re too heavy. I’m only 175 lbs, you’re more than I can lift,” it might reflect his own limitations and struggles with this new reality rather than a reflection of your worth or beauty. The loss of your dad clearly affected you deeply, and turning to food as a coping mechanism is a common response. This emotional weight builds on the physical one, often complicating both self-esteem and relationship dynamics. Communication is key. Share your feelings openly about your grief, how the weight gain is tied to your mental and emotional state, and express what you need from your boyfriend—not just physically, but emotionally. Encouraging couples counseling or therapy might offer a safe space to address these challenges together. It’s important that he understands the complexity of your experience and that you both explore ways to support one another, beyond physical appearances. There’s also the practical side: transitioning to a healthier lifestyle when you’re ready, which can improve both mental and physical well-being. But hope and change come from within you, not from external pressure. Remember, true partnership means acceptance and support through all seasons of life. Weight gain is difficult, but it doesn’t have to be a deal-breaker if approached with empathy and commitment from both sides. If you find your boyfriend doubts the relationship over these changes, reflect on what support you deserve and whether he can provide it. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, love, and the willingness to weather challenges. Seeking advice from support groups dealing with #WeightGainRelationshipStruggle may also help you feel less isolated and find others who understand your journey.
I’m 175 and my 120 skinny bf picks me up all the time 😭 your bf just weak af