Traveling from the death of parents😱💦
"Even if I can't meet my parents' death, I'll go on a trip."
When I told the facility so, my conflict and "certain words" told by my mother went down 👇
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When you are nursing care, do you always think in the corner of your head that your parents may fall or change suddenly today?
Every day I can't make my schedule at all because of the anxiety that "something might happen," and I always keep waiting.
I call this the "waiting hell of care."
Right now, my father is in the nursing care phase at the facility, and my 85-year-old mother at home also needs support.
However, my husband retired and I want to take him to my favorite hot spring because he worked for my family for decades.
So I went ahead and told the facility.
"I'm going on a overnight trip at the end of the month, so I can't come by any chance."
I was thrilled that I might be scolded, but the facility staff kindly sent me away, saying, "Please go ahead."
Even so, I felt a strong sense of guilt, saying, "I might not be able to see the death of my parents.
But when I told my mother about it honestly, she told me this.
"I'm sorry for staying overnight. I'm going with my husband who has worked for decades, so please enjoy it. Living people have priority, so please enjoy it to the fullest."
I don't know how much these words saved me 😭✨
You may think, "I just have to endure for the period of parental care," but even if my father's life is over, my mother's life will continue to progress, and then our old age.
I would never want to bind myself to the "public eye" or the "ideal frame of being a perfect daughter," and then blame someone else for not being able to do anything because of my parents.
You can't choose everything perfectly.
But even if you feel guilty, you make your own decisions and choose your own life.
We can give more priority to the lives of the living 🌿✨
👇 question for everyone!
Have you ever given up on your time for nursing care or parents?
Or, if you have been told by your parents or people around you, please let me know.
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親の介護を続けていると、「介護の待機地獄」「世間の目を気にすることで判断が鈍る」などの苦しい状況に直面します。私自身も同じように、親の急変に備えて自分の予定を立てられず、日々の生活が制限されていました。だからこそ、介護と自分の人生のバランスをどう取るかは、非常に悩ましいテーマです。 実際に、「親の死に目に会えないかもしれない」という罪悪感を抱きながらも、夫と旅行に行く決断をしたとき、施設の方からの温かい言葉に救われました。この経験は、完璧な介護を理想とせず、現実的な自分の人生を最優先に考える勇気を与えてくれます。 また、母からの「生きている人の方が優先」という言葉は、介護に追われる人にとって心の支えとなるメッセージです。たとえ介護が大切な役割だとしても、自分の心と体の健康を置き去りにしてしまっては長続きしません。私の経験では、適度に自分の時間を作り、旅行や趣味、リフレッシュの時間を設けることが、介護に対する負担感を軽減し、より良い介護支援につながりました。 さらに、介護は「終わりがない」と言われることもありますが、実際には自分や家族の人生も続きます。世間や周囲の理想を押し付けられて自分を縛るよりも、自分の気持ちに正直に決断を下すことが大切です。私は「完璧な娘」という枠を捨てることで、心の軽さを感じられるようになりました。 この経験から伝えたいのは、介護中でも「自分の人生をあきらめない」こと、そして「誰かのせいにせず自分で選ぶ」ということです。介護者にとっての『待機地獄』はきっと多くの人が感じることですが、そこから抜け出すためには、自分の感情や時間を尊重し、時には周囲と理解を得ながら柔軟に生活を組み立てていくことが最良の道だと感じています。 もし介護や親のことで「自分の時間を諦めてしまっている」方がいたら、どうかその気持ちを大切にしてほしいと思います。時には離れてリフレッシュすることも、結果的に介護する側もされる側も幸せになる秘訣です。コメント欄で皆さんの思いや悩み、心が軽くなった言葉を共有し合うことも、同じ境遇の人にとって大きな支えになるでしょう。
