MOM HOT TAKE: teaching my kids respect…

coming from California - i was never respectful like this. but moving from there to Texas i’ve learned that a TON of kids from elementary to high school, call all adults “ma’am” or “sir”. and i see it as super respectful.

since moving here, i added those words to my vocabulary and always told myself i’d teach my kids to acknowledge adults this way.

i’ve had young ladies my age tell me “i’m not old, don’t call me ma’am” and it’s not disrespectful. it’s just acknowledgment. and i don’t get offended when the kids i sub for call me ma’am. even if they don’t hear a question i ask, instead of saying “what?” they say “ma’am?” and i think it’s the sweetest.

it definitely matters where you come from. and the south has a ton of respect/ genuine hospitality.

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2025/11/14 Edited to

... Read moreGrowing up in different regions can significantly influence how respect and manners are taught to children. In many Southern states like Texas, addressing adults as “ma’am” and “sir” is a deeply ingrained custom, symbolizing politeness and respect. This practice contrasts with other regions, where such formalities may be less common. Teaching children to use these respectful terms not only helps them acknowledge adults courteously but also instills a sense of humility and consideration for others. Using “ma’am” and “sir” goes beyond mere words; it reflects a culture of genuine hospitality prevalent in the South. Children learn that respect is about recognizing the dignity of others, regardless of age. When kids respond with “ma’am?” instead of “what?”, it creates a more positive and respectful interaction. This subtle shift in language encourages better communication skills and manners that can positively impact social relationships. Moreover, encouraging children to embrace this form of respect prepares them to navigate diverse social environments gracefully. It teaches them the value of social awareness and adaptability, qualities highly regarded in personal and professional settings. Parents and caregivers can incorporate these respectful forms of address into everyday conversations and explain their significance to kids. By doing so, children not only learn to be polite but also appreciate the rich cultural heritage behind these expressions. This approach nurtures empathy and kindness, essential traits for building strong communities. In essence, adopting “ma’am” and “sir” as part of children's vocabulary is more than a linguistic choice—it’s a step toward fostering respect, humility, and warmth that resonate through generations, enriching both family values and societal interactions.

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Same!! We are Southern and we teach our children to call all of their elders ma’am and sir, say please and thank you, etc. it’s our culture and we are all about making sure they’re respectful!

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In from Tennessee and I completely agree! “huh” and “what” are so rude to me. Ma’am is very respectful.

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