The view from the book "Mr. Toad to the Psychotherapist"

Views obtained from books

"Mr. Toad went to see a psychotherapist."

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"When starting the outside world,

Will shape our inner world.

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And over time,

Our inner world.

It determines the outside world we see. "

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We humans have three conditions

Subsistence driven.

Driven to see the world.

And showing our behavior.

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1. Childrens: is the state that everyone must have and

The child's basic feelings will be compounded.

Fun with love, anger, sadness.

Fear. This is what exists in every child's nature.

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And these things will carry us in behavior.

That we use to deal with situations when we grow up.

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In childhood conditions, such as touchy symptoms,

Or bent when not exactly

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Will be a state that leaves emotions

Come in and control your own expression.

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And at the same time, if in childhood,

Not getting enough love or being scared.

But it can't do anything adults call parents.

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Children do what is called adaptive childhood.

By using consent, by apologizing.

Pamper and try to claim

Attention. Reliance and agree.

To avoid conflict.

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Until realizing again became the person

Try to please everyone

And don't dare to be yourself anymore

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2. Parents like criticism:

It's a state of criticism for things.

Always what it should be.

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Which is born of ideas and beliefs.

Forwarded from parents to become

Is the standard of our existence.

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This state is often decided to expect.

Always catching mistakes, things, and sometimes

Criticize yourself. Until the source of

The feeling is not good enough.

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Like, this job needs to be solved.

In children who grew up with the word

Do nothing, never get anything

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When I heard I had to fix the job,

What he heard was that we sucked.

Like my parents really said.

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3. Adult state: is the state

That makes us the most conscious.

Choose a rational decision.

It doesn't flow with emotion or sound in the head.

Like the previous two conditions.

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Until able to interpret and choose

Behavioral expression

Appropriately.

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Like, solve this job.

I want it to be like...

Instead of feeling myself unrecognized,

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People with adult conditions will

Can separate this piece from itself.

Until ready to adjust both sides

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And these three conditions will bring to the standpoint and the game.

That we play in everyday life.

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1. I'm not okay. You're okay.

Is that person

Think negatively of yourself and feel

Others are better than themselves, have low self-esteem.

Makes you like to play games. Bait and pity.

And life will be as he thinks and looks.

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2. I'm okay. You're not okay.

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That person feels superior to others.

Until not daring to trust

Make it a constant critic of others.

Keep catching mistakes and squeezing others to be as they thought.

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3. I'm okay. You're okay.

Is that person

There is faith in yourself and others.

Dare to decide as you think.

And ready to hear different views.

Dare to ask someone else for help.

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4. I'm not okay. You're not okay.

Is that person

There is no confidence in both myself and others.

To live in isolation and suffering.

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Finally, the whole state and the whole position

Doesn't decide who's good or bad.

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But it's something that helps us realize

To their own inner world.

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Knowing your thoughts and choosing actions.

I dare to take responsibility for my life.

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The important question is not what state.

Or which stand is better?

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But what state are we in now?

And choose what position to live.

Until bringing about your own behavior

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