Could’ve Been

a lot more than what I am at this stage of my life buttttt life threw me a few curveballs! I went through so much at an early age being SA’D by a family member and that took a toll on me physically emotionally and mentally as you can imagine. I left everything I knew trying to get myself and sister away from an Uncle who couldn’t control himself. Even when I spoke out about the abuse I watched the family that raised me turn against me and try and protect him. I ended up moving with my dad after I couldn’t take any more of the verbal and physical abuse. Victim blaming is a real thing and for a long time it made me bitter and angry inside because how can I get more punishment than the Adult who violated me between the age of 13-15? I cut ties with any family close to him and even today I still keep my distance. It took years of healing and working through this. I’m still not completely recovered I’m now a mother myself and the fear of my kids ever going through anything I have been through because as their mom I wish a MF would even try it i’m going to jail but anyways if you are a SA Survivor like myself like share save and comment if you have a story of your own this is a safe space!

#survivingabuse #saawareness #molestation #childhoodtrauma #healing #MentalHealth #safespace #lemon8challenge #surviving #selflove

2024/10/23 Edited to

... Read moreSurviving abuse is an incredibly challenging journey that many individuals face. The impact of childhood trauma, particularly from sexual abuse, can resonate throughout a person's life, affecting mental health, relationships, and self-esteem. Therapy and support from survivors' communities can play a crucial role in healing, offering a platform for sharing experiences and advice. Engaging in discussions about self-love and recovery is essential in tackling the stigma associated with being a survivor. As more individuals share their stories, it promotes awareness and encourages others to step forward. If you're seeking help or resources, organizations exist to provide guidance and foster a safe environment where survivors can connect and heal together. Remember, you are not alone, and your story matters. For those affected, taking steps toward healing can begin with setting boundaries, finding supportive networks, and prioritizing mental health. Regular self-care practices and understanding that healing is a gradual process can help navigate the complexities of recovery. Prioritizing safety and support for your loved ones mirrors the protective instincts that emerge in survivors, fostering a healthy environment conducive to healing for both parents and children. Together, we can build a community rooted in empathy and support for all survivors.

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Wow. So sorry to hear what you went through. Thanks for sharing. It can help to express yourself and encourage others to comment their own experiences.

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