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Why I love having a helper as a mum of 2 in 🇸🇬

To all helpers reading this, thank you for all that you do, for leaving your lovely family and children behind and dedicate your work sincerely to us. A We appreciate it.

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Having a helper at home as a mum of two in Singapore has transformed my daily life in countless ways. Beyond just assistance with chores, my helper has become an essential part of our family rhythm. One of the biggest advantages I've experienced is the ability to focus more on my children. Since my helper manages tasks like dishwashing and cleaning, I get to spend quality time playing, teaching, and bonding with my kids without feeling overwhelmed. Especially during pregnancy, having someone who can whip up delicious treats like chiffon cakes in an hour—when it would take me three—feels like a blessing. The clean and organized home environment that my helper maintains provides me with mental clarity and reduces stress tremendously. Fresh sheets, spotless floors, and no piling laundry create a calming atmosphere that positively impacts everyone. Another significant benefit is not having to rely on ageing parents for childcare. This allows my family to avoid conflicts from differing parenting styles and gives my parents the freedom to enjoy their retirement. A helper who sincerely dedicates herself to the family brings peace of mind, knowing my children are well cared for. In my experience, having a helper is not just about delegating work—it’s about reclaiming time and sanity. Taking breaks and having moments to myself or with my husband keeps me balanced and a better parent overall. To all helpers who make these sacrifices, your dedication is deeply appreciated and valued beyond words.

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tbh, all helpers have sets back and problem. is how we cope with them. how we absorb their nonsense. one thing for sure I create boundaries that we are the employer. u hear my instruction and you are nt princess of the house. if say vacuum the house by 10 am. u don't vacuum the house at 5 pm. all follow schedule. no negotiation. we set the rules. too bad their working environment is a home. our working environment is office . so we follow office rules.we hear our boss instruction. if nt tomorrow nt need to come to work for us . same like them

I hv terrible maid...I send back to.agent..

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