i thought we were friends.. 🙃🤷🏽‍♀️

Hey everyone! So, the original post just scratches the surface of something really profound for many of us in the trans community, especially trans girls. That idea of 'trans girl lore' – where your old 'homeboys' watch you transition and then suddenly start professing their love and admiration for you? Yeah, that's a whole chapter in itself, and it's something I've definitely experienced and talked about with so many friends. It's wild, right? You've known these guys for years, shared friendships, maybe even navigated awkward crushes in your past life, and suddenly, after you've put in all the work to become your authentic self, the dynamic completely shifts. One minute, they're your buddies, and the next, they're looking at you in a whole new light. Sometimes it's sweet, sometimes it's really confusing, and honestly, sometimes it can feel a little bit like... well, where was this energy before? Navigating these evolving relationships can be tricky. On one hand, it's affirming to be seen and desired for who you truly are, especially after transition. It validates your journey and the woman you've become. But on the other hand, it can also bring up a lot of questions. Are they seeing me for me, or is it a fascination with the 'new' me? How do I handle it when these 'professions of love' come from people I only ever saw as friends? For me, setting clear boundaries has been absolutely essential. It’s okay to be flattered, but it’s also okay to say, 'Hey, I value our friendship, and that's where I need it to stay.' Sometimes, these conversations are tough, but they're crucial for maintaining your peace and healthy relationships. It's about respecting your own emotional space. It's also a powerful lesson in self-worth. You realize that your value isn't just about how you present, but about the incredible journey you've been on. And for those 'homeboys' who genuinely support you and celebrate your transition without any hidden agendas, those are the friendships worth holding onto, even if the dynamic has changed. It's truly a unique part of the trans experience, a reminder that transformation isn't just internal, but ripples through every connection in your life. It really makes you reflect on the nature of friendship itself and what it means to be seen. And it’s not just about romantic interest. Sometimes it’s just an intensified admiration, a sudden appreciation for your strength and courage that wasn't as overtly expressed before. This can also be overwhelming. It makes you realize that your transition isn't just a personal journey; it's a journey that affects everyone around you. Having a strong support system, whether new friends or old ones who truly get it, is paramount. Remember, your feelings are valid, and your journey is yours to define. Don't be afraid to communicate how these shifts make you feel and what you need from your relationships.