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I didn’t realize how much my attachment style affects my relationships

starting this attachment styles workbook…

and i already feel like it’s about to teach me a lot about myself

i’ve been learning that the way i react in relationships

isn’t random… it comes from patterns

the overthinking

needing reassurance

feeling anxious when someone pulls away

but now i’m working on understanding it

instead of judging it

this is part of my healing journey

have you ever looked into your attachment style?

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