Things I wish I knew when I was 25.. 🫶🏼
1. Stop drinking and dr*ggin. It’s not cool, it’s actually pathetic. You’re wasting your life, making bad choices and decisions and you can’t undo what you did when you were intoxicated.
2. Stop caring what other people think of you, live true to yourself, and stop trying to be what you think someone else wants you to be.
3. Don’t revolve your life around a man / partner/ friendship. People will come and go in your life. Let them leave, don’t try to hold on to something that you know deep down isn’t right for you.
4. Learn how to be by yourself, and be content spending time with yourself. If you can master this, you will be unstoppable.
5. Don’t waste time thinking and talking about what you want to do, just start. It may be messy and disorganized but you will figure it out as you go!
6. Be the quietest person in the room, stop over sharing, stop venting your business, stop talking smack about other people, just listen and observe. You will learn so much about yourself and other people.
7. Don’t talk or think negative about yourself.
Reflecting on these life lessons, I realize how important it is to embrace each stage of life with intention and self-compassion. When I was in my mid-twenties, I often struggled to find my identity, swayed too much by others' opinions and societal pressures. It took years to understand that true confidence comes from accepting yourself as you are, even if that means going against the crowd. One invaluable lesson I learned is the power of solitude. Initially, spending time alone felt uncomfortable, even lonely. But gradually, I discovered that being content with myself deepened my self-awareness and resilience. It’s amazing how much clarity you gain when you simply observe your thoughts and feelings without distraction. Another point that resonates is starting before feeling 100% ready. Many dreams stayed just ideas because I was afraid of imperfection. In hindsight, taking imperfect action helped me grow more than endless planning ever could. It’s okay to be messy and unsure—that’s part of the journey. Also, letting go of relationships that no longer serve you is freeing yet challenging. At 25, I held onto friendships and partnerships out of fear of change, but releasing those ties opened space for more authentic connections. Lastly, ceasing negative self-talk has been transformative. The way we speak to ourselves shapes our reality. Choosing kindness over criticism has helped me build a stronger, more positive mindset over time. These lessons aren’t just abstract advice—they’re steps that gradually reshaped my life. If you’re navigating your twenties or beyond, I encourage you to take them to heart and be patient with your growth. You’re not alone on this path, and every effort toward self-love and authenticity matters.
