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Before getting married, what should we talk about?

Before marriage, many people focus on

Do we love each other enough? How well do we get along?

But when living a real life to know that

There are many things to discuss clearly from before you start.

• About money

It's not just with or without

But also the habits of spending money, debt and planning the future.

Because this unknowingly becomes a big problem for many couples.

• About the baby.

Want to have it? Want to have it when?

Including parenting guidelines on who will be the primary caregiver.

Because in real time, it's no small thing.

• Family matters

How to live after marriage

How much care or support?

Because each person's family affects their marriage more than they think.

In the end, marriage is not just love.

But it's living together every single day.

If they understood each other in the first place,

Many future problems may not be needed.

Some things... are not important when dating.

But it's very important to live a real life.

# Grow up and know that # Double life ♪ Before you get married ♪ # Relationship # Good ideas

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