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Why I often stay home as an autistic girly

Having a dynamic disability is weird because some days, I can talk to people like its no big deal, grapple with change and sensory disturbances, and just exist. Although most of the time I can do these things, it's when I am engaging in my special interests.

But the other times? Just going grocery shopping and to pick up a prescription feels like the hardest thing in the world. It’s so loud, and bright, and scary out there. It’s mostly the scripts that I get hung up on.

I often wonder how different this would be if we lived in a more accommodating environment?

#lemon8partner #adhd #audhd #autistic #actuallyautistic #autisminwomen #adhdlife #autism #accommodations #disability

2024/10/14 Edited to

Living as an autistic person often involves navigating sensory overload and social challenges, creating a need for solace in familiar spaces. Many autistic individuals experience heightened sensitivity to light, sound, and crowds, making outings like grocery shopping daunting tasks. In accommodating environments, the experience of public spaces can drastically improve. Adaptations such as quieter shopping hours or sensory-friendly zones can help create more inclusive communities. Understanding the dynamics of autism also sheds light on why some prefer the comfort of home, where they can tailor their environments to their needs. The home becomes a sanctuary, free from unexpected triggers and risks. This safe space allows for recovery time, essential for maintaining mental health and overall well-being. Embracing special interests during these homebound periods can enhance creativity and fulfillment, allowing individuals to thrive. For those supporting autistic loved ones, fostering an understanding of these needs and advocating for accommodations in public spaces can create a more accepting society for everyone. By sharing experiences and insights, we broaden the understanding of autism, highlighting the importance of empathy and awareness in our communities. This journey encourages not only personal growth but also a collective movement towards a more inclusive world for autistic individuals.

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CrystalDragons25

So relatable!

Concklin Comics

I’ve heard that switching tasks is difficult for AuDHD folks. Examples: going outside, taking a shower, etc where the sensory experiences are very different. It can take the mind time to adjust. I also struggle to leave the house on my off-work days 😅 thank you for your content! 🫶

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